Thursday, March 26, 2009

Retail Therapy

My new Coach purchase!!! This will double as a diaper bag/purse! Today my friend, DeAnna, and I went up to Michigan City to do some shopping. DeAnna is part of the 'club'...the club nobody likes to be in... She had a daughter on August 15, 2007, named Parker. Parker, like Connor, died due to vasa previa. Our labor and delivery stories are almost identical, it's scary. There is noone else in the world that understands how much my heart hurts like DeAnna. She's a victim of Vasa Previa--a totally PREVENTABLE condition that really ISN'T that rare; 1:2500. We have, probably what some people call, a weird relationship.....When we are together all we talk about are our babies and how unfair it is that they are not here with us. We can share our frustrations, tears, laughs and crazy sarcastic jokes with one another. She has definitely been a huge part of my ongoing healing process. I had such a great day with her shopping and talking and remembering our sweet little angels. Thanks for being my DBF, DeAnna :) Love you lots!
And I can't forgot about my friend, Ellyn. She too, is in the 'club'. We share a different bond with our losses.... She had a baby boy named Eli. Eli was born on March 28, 2007. If you haven't realized's because her sweet angel shares a birthday with Connor. Somehow, I came across her blog, we exchanged emails....I vented, she comforted me. She is an amazing woman with a heart of gold. I was so excited when I had a package in the mail from her today. Not knowing what to expect, I opened it up and found these....
This is a Birthday bear that was given to her on, what would have been, Eli's 1st birthday. When Seth, her next born after Eli, was born and being taken care of in the NICU this bear was in there representing Eli watching over Seth. (We will be doing the same when baby Hall arrives in July) Seth was born premature and had a few health issues shortly after he arrived. Seth is now deaf and is a good candidate for cochlear implants. This is a very expensive surgery and they are in the process of raising money to help defer the cost of his implants. They are selling these bracelets for $5 to help fund his surgery. If you would like to help support Ellyn and her family, visit her blog.

Here is beautiful Seth, who will SOON hear!!!
May you have a peaceful Saturday as you remember sweet Eli in the beautiful streets of New York City. Will be thinking of you all day. Much love and many hugs to you and your family.

1 comment:

Sara said...

I love your bag! You know I have a thing for Coach bags...

Ya know, when Samuel died I would hear that something good would come out of it. I didn't know what the heck that "good" could possibly be. But as time has passed I know that the "good" is connecting with other mommas who have experienced the loss. Not only connecting with them, but building relationships with them.

So, I am glad that you have met such good friends. Unfortunately, the circumstances that brought you together suck. Is that too blunt of a statement? It isn't very eloquently put, but I think you know what I mean.

You will be in my thoughts this weekend, as will your sweet Connor.